Footnote to: http://my-point-o-view.blogspot.com/2010/12/dont-get-bitter-get-better.html#comment-form

If you haven't read http://my-point-o-view.blogspot.com/2010/12/dont-get-bitter-get-better.html#comment-form you should before you read my response below... Plus it's something we all should learn and if we already know should refresh our memory.

This blog is more of a footnote I'm adding onto "Don't get bitter, get better." Basically because this short blog touched me and got me thinking so I am passing it on and adding my two cents in case my readers don't actually read the link... WHICH YOU SHOULD!! :oP


People who choose to heal are easily noticed... They are the ones who can make it through anything (and most have had to make it through a lot of hardships!) They are the ones with a smile on their face. The strong ones who amaze us all in the midst of their battle.  Of course, you can also pick the others out from a crowd... They are the ones who lose so much of every good part of life during the smallest adverse circumstance. The ones who lose the smile of their younger years who have misplaced their laugh no matter how funny the present moment. The people who can't find the breaks as they spiral down into a life of bitterness, anger and hatred.  The great thing is, you can choose which category you are in!

I know from experience, there is a time of clarity in every situation (no matter how confusing or severe) there is a moment you realize "I need to let this go... now." or "I need to get hold of myself" possibly even "OK, I need to pull myself up by the boot straps and move past this!"  That's the time when you must listen to that little voice of warning. I know that voice can sound a lot like fear and we all want to be strong but it's not fear at all, it's a warning we must heed!  If you take the time to explore the reasons behind that short sentence that floats through your mind you will find it's because your anger is about to turn into a plot of revenge, your sincere hurt and pain into bitterness against any future possibility of love that involves any risk to you or your fear is about to construct walls of steel and barbed wire around the heart that's been battered by the person who just turned their back on you.  I know the pain you're facing, the fear every other person will leave just like him or her, I know how you spiral out of control so fast you wonder if you're going  mad... But, mind over matter, DO NOT ALLOW yourself to continue down that road, I know it is difficult and it will take more than one decision to "get past it" but that's the first step and if you don't take it, who knows what you could break in the process of getting off that ledge in the future, if you ever get the chance.

You must choose the better path!  Take the first step down the stairs instead of waiting for years when you have to be rescued or, even worse, jump and hope for the best... Your future steps may not be clear now, you will get frustrated when you can't see all the way but if you take the first step the next will become clear...  You may even take a step back in the wrong direction but just take control of your thoughts and fear forcing yourself back into the right way... Eventually you will be at the point of your destiny, standing in amazement at how far you've come through just putting one foot in front of the other, taking it day by day, moment by moment, lesson by lesson.  And at that moment you will realize, it may have been a long recovery with some rehabilitation and speech therapy (learning how to be positive and trusting) but all you have left of the darkness and fear is the scar of a fleeting memory that you've turned into a triumph and smile!

In short, Allow healing instead of picking at the scab of a bad memory, fear of abandonment and pain of the past... If you have to put a band aid of distraction over the pain, do it; let your healing process start without you... but begin healing now! Choose to heal just like the person who was in an accident and learned to walk again because of determination in spite of the doctors prediction! 


"Healing rain is falling down" so, as my grampie would say "get under the spout where the glory comes out!" HEALING IS HERE!